Posts tagged ‘Family’

Why Siblings Don’t Get Along…

Everyone across the globe has someone that they treat as their siblings or even real siblings. I shall not offer one of those nice heartwarming posts about how wonderful siblings are because frankly I don’t know much about that. It is well know that siblings fight. Why they fight is a whole ‘nother story. When kids are born the only thing they have to guide them are their instincts and the ability to learn quickly. Many psychologists who study children believe that they fight because of birth order. I believe they might be onto something.

When the first/only child is born, they are lazy and more than likely are narcissistic because they don’t have to earn their parents’ love or fight for food or anything like that; they just are, according to the layman. Some psychologists believe that there is nothing wrong with the first/only child in comparison to other children.

Now the middle child is where things get interesting. Everyone see this child as the one who hates people. They are never around and never seem to want much of anything from anyone. They are the ones who always fall behind the first born and must pick up the mess because they must learn how. psychologists believe that they learn no skills in life that can help them out and tend to be loners.

Finally there is the last child. These children are by far the most cute, according to the average man. They get all the love that the parents have because they cannot fend for themselves and parents like to know they are doing for their kids and not leaving them by the wayside. Their mannerisms and wits are the talk of any family party especially when the topic is Kids. However many psychologists believe that the youngest of the family learns skills that would best suit them in field where their life is called for or some form of risk. They are viewed as being either over loved or underloved.

As for why siblings fight it is very simple, they have to earn their parents love. Yes it’s true that each parent loves their child t death but each child has a separate type of love. Each type of love would come with it’s own rewards and risks as well as variations of attention. By the time the youngest comes along the middle child is all but forgotten between the shouts of “Isn’t he cute”, “Why would you do that” and “That’s mah boy!” So they with draw inward where it is safer. For the eldest child, they normal feel as if they have been forgotten and tend to act out in the hopes of regaining what they and their parents shared before the younger ones came about.

N.B If you take this seriously it is at your own expense. TaTa!

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Friends Are Why We Get Up In The Morning…

… Or why we can’t wait to get into bed. I can honestly say that I have some weird friends. Every where I go I make friends with people who don’t blink at anything, have a head like a an encyclopedia, are innocent beyond some sembalance of reality or are just crazy. Mostly they are crazy.

In the world of friends you have more or lest three distinct friends. The Alpha, the Beta and the ones who cause trouble. Now in order for every group to work there must be some reason we bunch of strangers can get along. In the case of me and my friends it just so happens that we like to read and watch anime. Also my group contains the core elements: Alpha, Beta, and Trouble maker. Sometimes they are so sharp that we come across as a band of lions(rawr?). For now forget my friends and focus on the three main types in any group.

Alpha:

The alpha of any group is usually the one who will go out and get something done in any case scenario right? Wrong! Dead Wrong! The alpha in every group of friends is the go to person for any form of trouble. They are like lions. When they are not being useful they leave, go scope out other groups of friends, ward off potential trouble makers who clash with group dynamics. The Alpha is not a fuzzy furry character in the group of friends. They will lay you down with straight forward logical and brutal honesty sometimes( if the dynamic of the group is more shady) They will use sarcasm to get their point across. Typical alpha stuff. They leave everything within the group of friends up to the Beta.

Beta:

The Beta is like the go to person for anything on the group of friends. More often than not they know where everyone is and what they are doing. They organize birthdays, sleep overs, parties you name it they are doing it. They are not in it for the glory much like the Alpha(Bad alpha, very bad) but rather for the enjoyment they get for making other happy. When the alpha is not around or is being mean many of the friends will go and cry on the Beta’s shoulder pushing all their worries on the Beta. The Beta being kind will then give them advice on the dos and don’ts of the situation. Unlike the trouble maker.

The Trouble maker:

The trouble maker is the probable the most vicious of all the friends you will ever have. It is hard to tell them from enemies because their very nature dictates that they will eventually do something that will cause trouble. They will act like any normal friend until they either get bored or start suffering from low blood sugar. More than likely the former will be the most common. Unlike enemies they genuinely care when they cross the line and cause their friends genuine stress. they are normally a very quiet part of the group or overlooked. In larger groups more than one trouble maker may exsist though this is very rare.

So now you know about the three main types of friends in every group of friends. You might be asking but what does this have to do with why we wake up or go to bed because of friends? Well the answer is nothing really. If your group is strong and all the members are present then you will have nothing to worry about but should your group fall apart, should any of these members go missing then you find yourself drifting away from those who are close to… or becoming stronger because of it.

Dedicated to my favourite trouble maker. 🙂